>>385121>I want to believe that love is some ideal, and it is a way of seeing someone that nullifies their negative qualities, but at some point that just turns into being a doormat.Well that's the thing, love isn't an ideal. And that's what I meant in the fact that we're sold this bullshit idea of these hollywood ideas of monogomous relationships. They are messy, and they are flawed. But As I said before, there is are different kinds of love, and you have to understand that love isn't a one way street. I've had crushes for people who haven't reciprocated. And it feels like shit, you feel like an idiot, that you've been bamboozled. At that low point, you either start to hate yourself or hate others and shove it on others. But none of these help. Ironically enough, communism actually turned me into a better lover. You have a right to laugh, everyone who reads what I'm about to say has to, I even laugh at it myself, yet ironically being able to self-crit, to learn about mutual aid and apply that to relationships AS WELL AS YOURSELF is fufilling. It ensures that who you love is not your doormat or vice versa. It is a relationship built on genuine respect, mutual aid, and a constant mass line on your relationship. If you or your lover can't take criticism, can't speak honestly to eachother and fail to communicate, then the relationship is doomed to fail. Be honest with eachother on what you want and what you need. Treat eachother as the vanguards of this relationship, with respect, dignity, but never be afraid to criticise (so long as its constructive). To hell with this Americanised ideal of love.
>If anything for me communism is rising up and refusing to love all, and loving some rather than all. But also it can't be a patronizing, stifling love. That's a purely selfish love that's really just in love with itself and it's own idea. I think maybe the best love prescribes nothing, and is mostly hands off, in favor of watching and helping the other come to their own power, and just being there with someone but not necessarily doing any action in their name.The thing which you have to understand is that people aren't entirely good or evil, progressive or conservative, based or cringe. We have all said and done stupid shit that we wish that we could take back, and some may constantly use that against you. But if you develop, if you better yourself, and you make the effort, their so called "criticisms" of you will bounce off of you barely making a dent. That is what socialism is, a constant desire to abolish things, but build something new and develop it as it goes. In this revolution, you are going to have to deal with conservative minded folks who may be in your ranks, you're going to have to deal with your manic pixie goth chick who blasts anarchist music. But the truth is, is that killing people in this context for being stupid, when they're young, when they're impressionable, when they have known nothing else is not productive. Your ultimate goal is to change the minds of people, to unify them in struggle and in return be willing to change your mind and recognise your own flaws and work to better them. You're going to have disagreements fall outs and arguments. But the important thing is how you handle them. Shitting on people for the sake of shitting on people to get "upvoots" and "likes" will not help you, it leaves you bitter, a cynic, and fosters nothing but anger and bitterness. People never stop growing, people never stop developing, for better or for worse. How is love any different?
Never be afraid to love, and never give into despair. There is only direction to go, for both yourself and for love.
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